top of page
Search
Writer's pictureHolly Pflugh

Learning to Embrace Holiday Traditions in a New Chapter of Independence and Freedom

As the holidays approach, many of us enter a time of reflection and anticipation. Family gatherings become a focal point, bringing warmth and excitement, especially as I eagerly await reunions with my oldest child while cherishing moments with my youngest. This time of year reminds us of the importance of connection, even as we navigate the complexities of change.


Over the past few months, my little family of three has emerged from a transformative journey. We've learned valuable lessons about independence, personal growth, and the deeply rooted connections that support us. Our experiences have helped us identify our true support system and improve communication about our feelings and desires. This clarity has shown me how essential it is to carve individual paths while nurturing our family bond.


When frustration arises from others' comments about our choices, I remind my kids that sometimes those remarks stem from others needing a hobby. I take pride in our effort and firmly believe that our past does not need to define our future. With that in mind, let's explore our holiday traditions and the new paths we are embracing.


A New Chapter for Thanksgiving


Thanksgiving this year carries a unique sense of comfort. For the first time in a while, I will be enjoying the holiday from home, allowing me to focus on our family traditions while remaining close to my parents. In the past, I traveled long distances, often feeling exhausted. This change is refreshing, creating time to nurture our connections without the stress of travel.


My daughters now have the freedom to shape our holiday experience. I encourage them to express themselves—even if it feels challenging to step back at times. I want them to navigate their choices and understand that allowing space for individuality is crucial for their growth. It's a bittersweet experience, but recognizing it's part of their journey helps me cope.



Discussing the Importance of Communication


One significant change we’ve made is prioritizing open discussions about feelings. It is not easy to break down barriers, yet these conversations have led to remarkable progress. A survey revealed that families who communicate openly report a 40% increase in feelings of connectedness and understanding.


Teaching my children about the significance of communication has been one of the most fulfilling aspects of our journey. I want them to voice their thoughts confidently, especially during family gatherings. By encouraging a space for laughter and dialogue, we ensure that everyone feels valued.


Respecting Individual Choices


As much as I long for all my kids to be by my side during the holidays, I realize the importance of honoring their independence. Whether they choose to spend time with friends or decide their holiday plans, I strive to support their choices wholeheartedly. Research indicates that when parents promote autonomy, children develop better self-esteem and decision-making skills.


With each step toward independence, I learn to let go of my expectations and embrace the uniqueness of our experiences. Each member's individual choices add richness to our celebrations, resulting in memories we can cherish together.


Embracing New Beginnings


As the holiday season unfolds, I celebrate our family’s growth. From learning about independence to embracing new traditions, this time signifies beautiful connections. I raise a toast to everyone navigating this path—learning to enjoy each other’s company and doing what genuinely brings happiness.


Here’s to treasuring moments together, respecting our choices, and welcoming the spirit of love and gratitude that fills our hearts during this holiday season. Cheers to embracing new beginnings and a joyous holiday ahead!

79 views0 comments

Recent Posts

See All

Comments


bottom of page